Keys to a Great Groom Speech

Our partners over at Great Speech Writers have taken the time to write us out the keys to a great groom speech. Here, they break it down into 3 manageable principles for you.

The key principles are simple:

Relevance, Seamlessness and Prioritisation.

1. Relevance

I suggest you start by scribbling down a long list of everyone you need to mention. If it looks very long, here are a few tips:

  • Don’t thank anyone being paid to be there (caterers, wedding planners, flower arrangers).

  • Try to group people together to avoid lines like ‘and I also need to mention’. So siblings,

    siblings-in-law, ushers, guests who have traveled from afar can be covered together rather

    than in sub-lists.

  • Imagine you are in the audience. At what point would you think that the thank yous are getting a bit unnecessary? You can always thank a guest personally on the dance floor later.

  • Your speech structure requires you to cover those that really matter, and who are truly relevant to your life.  And if you want to give them a bunch of flowers, then please don’t interrupt your speech to do so.

2. Seamlessness

You have hopefully narrowed down the thanks by now, creating a little more time to mention the few people who really matter. Health and family-circumstances permitting, they are:

Both sets of parents, any significant elderly relatives, siblings and, possibly, your very closest friends. The best way is to link these sections together so the thank yous happen without the majority of your audience realising. Link seamlessly from subject to subject without awkward pauses or changes in direction!

3. Prioritisation

When planning your groom speech it is also important to remember who really matters ,and that’s your bride.

As a rule of thumb I would suggest you spend at least 50% of your time on her. Which, means something in the region of 600 words.  The worst groom speeches often spend this long talking about holidays in Magaluf with the best man!

Again, your speech will measurably improve if you don’t see this as a stand-alone ‘section’ of the speech. Compartmentalising your groom speech isn’t a great idea. It will come across as much more natural and heartfelt to mention your wife from the very start. Weaving brief anecdotes and joint-thanks into your speech will also help break-up the rigidity of the thank you ‘list’.

If you need any help with writing your Groom speech, contact Great Speech Writing. We’re experts and have written hundreds of truly bespoke groom speeches.

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SpeechesMichael Deluce